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Tuesday, December 27, 2016
Stepping off on the right foot at the start of your season.
I sure hope so.
Because here goes nothing.
Do you ever feel this way about starting contest season with your guard or dance team? I sure do! I put in a lot of work at the beginning to make sure everyone knows what is going on, and so that everything goes off without so much as a hitch. It can be stressful. It can be a big investment.
But it's also so thrilling, we keep coming back for more each and every season.
We've trained the students in the basics that we want them to be able to accomplish for the show.
We've taught the show.
We've collected the money.
We've placed the orders.
Everything is starting to come together slowly.
And next month we will see how well it works out.
Right now it's time to just sit back and relax before the season begins. It's what we guard instructors have to do in order to keep from getting ulcers later. It makes the world a better place for our students when things start heating up.
Good luck to all of you and yours this season. I hope you all learn great things and accomplish great tasks. I hope every one of you and your students grows from every experience.
Here we go.
<3 Jackie
Sunday, December 25, 2016
"The One" - Reprinted with Permission
I've had a lot of questions and a lot of thoughts about "The One" lately. How do you know he's "The One"? How do you get his attention if you think he might be "The One"? How do you keep him from running off if he's "The One"?
First of all, stop asking me. I'm a writer, not a prophet, fortune teller, or carnival side show. I have no idea about what the future holds for you as a specific person.
Secondly, if you really want my advice - my honest opinion about the matter - then I'll give it to you. Don't cry if it isn't what you want to hear. If you just want somebody to say "He must be your soul mate and you are definitely getting married!" then go tell a teenage girl about your relationship. That seems to be their programmed response to every person in an adult relationship in their life who they look up to.
Finally, here is my advice. And I'm stopping after that because this note is starting to look like a high school English essay in which a student makes his or her points listed out in paragraph format but has no idea what is acceptable for paragraph length or content.
#1 If you are a teenager, he's probably not "The One." This isn't something to be upset or sad about though, it is good for us to date many people in our time to decide what we like and dislike about other people and what the best attributes are in a mate.
#2 If he has brought up the topic of sex and shown an interest in having it with you without any sort of legal commitment, he's probably not "The One." I have had SO MANY friends in my day who meet a guy, sleep with him, then come crying to me when it doesn't work out! They wonder "Why can't I just find a good guy?" and my response (once I'm done comforting them, of course) is "Well, you give it away so easy and scrubs can smell a slut from a mile away!"
#3 If his entire life completely revolves around you and he has no other friends or interests, he's probably not "The One." That might sound kind of backwards, but he needs to have a life of his own before he can bring anything to the table in your life.
#4 If his idea of a ring to propose to you is something he bought on sale at Wal-Mart, he's probably not "The One." Now, I get a lot of argument here from people because they think that being interested in a guy who can buy you nice things is shallow. That's not what I mean, though! You need a guy who can manage his money, make a living for himself, and has no problem sharing it with you.
#5 If you have to constantly remind him not to look at other women, or he does things that make you jealous when he KNOWS you will get jealous, he's probably not "The One." This is especially true of any guy who has ever cheated on a girl because once a cheater, always a cheater. I never believed that myself, and I have actually serial-dated reformed cheater after reformed cheater and wondered why I always wound up getting cheated on and crying at the end. Duh, because that statement is so true! It is a rare case that a cheater ever actually changed his (or her) ways without serious psychiatric assistance, religion, or a huge lifestyle shift. Most of which people are too terrified of anyhow!
#6 If you find yourself checking out other guys, flirting with other guys, or even cheating on your guy, then he's probably not "The One." That just goes to show that there's something you desire in your man that he's lacking, and you aren't going to be satisfied without it.
#7 If either of you are trying to change the other person's personality, lifestyle, fashion, friends, or personal choices, then he's probably not "The One." The whole idea behind a guy being "The One" is that he is already the perfect one for you and you are the perfect one for him. Sure, you will both have to make little sacrifices here and there, compromise a little, but the things I listed are not little compromises, they are big, personality-based ones. These are the things that make each person who they are inside and if those need to change then it's time to move on.
That sounds like enough out of me for now. Nobody paid me to write this, I am just laying it down straight to everyone who reads this because there are SO MANY mixed messages out there for young women with weddings on the brain! Magazines, web sites, books, even sometimes parents just tell their kids to go out and "have fun" with whomever they want, not caring about how they crush hearts (including their own) along the way. Trust me, few women know how exhausting it is to have to wait for their true love to come along the way I've had to. Most just hop on the first guy who offers a ring (or gives them a kid, whether they want it or not). Then they wonder why their lives are miserable later on. My time hasn't come yet, though, and I am a very impatient person! Therefore, you can wait, it's possible.
J.M. Hope
Thursday, December 22, 2016
Pretty Pink Death Donuts
When I got to Spintronix this weekend I was ready to learn everything new stuff and and see what was in store for us this weekend.
Friday night: I walked in the door and we all were visiting with each other then it was time to go. After that we did dance class (in high-heeled shoes) we did the warm-ups like normal. Then we did across the floors which were super fun. After that we reviewed our drill which was a little confusing. Then we worked on our warm-ups and got our bodies moving after that we worked on our flag choreography which it seemed like we worked on it for centuries. Once we were done with that we did team building we played tic tac toe with some flag silks. Finally it was time to go to bed.
Saturday: Everyone woke up and had breakfast. Then after 30 minutes to an hour we went right into working the first thing we did is learned more choreography and pieced it together with drill it seemed like we worked forever. Then it was lunch time and everyone visited and ate. Next it was time to continue our day we learned a lot of new choreography and "dad" came in right as we were working on our new choreography. He had this weird thermometer thingy. Then we continued on working on our new choreography. Then it was finally time to review drill and choreography. After we were done with that we did a chunk through and a run through. Finally it was time to do chores and go home. I couldn't believe this was our sixth rehearsal weekend now we have two weekends off and once we come back we have dress rehearsal I am so excited.
- Emily
Tuesday, December 20, 2016
The secret to success in anything
Sunday, December 18, 2016
Sick Philosophy - Reprinted with Permission
I suppose sick days are my body's way of telling me that I absolutely HAVE to slow down RIGHT NOW or I will DIE. I don't take breaks very often from all of the million things that I do, and I don't write nearly as much as I really would like to (notice how it's been nearly a year since I published my first book, more than that since I FINISHED my first book, and the second one still is nowhere to be found? Yeah, I need to write more.) I just keep dreaming of this magical, mystical "someday" that will happen when I won't need to hold down a full-time teaching position, I can just teach guard, dance, and write. Those three things are so much my favorite things in life that it is almost painful for me to have to do anything else that I love even a little less!
So today is a sick day. I left school yesterday with a horrible hacking cough that I couldn't avoid no matter how much water I drank or how much I swallowed. The doctor told me I need more sleep. Well, there wasn't exactly a surprise there. I have been getting the "more sleep" he speaks of today, plus catching up on the reading and writing I have been meaning to do as well. Although physically I FEEL horrible, mentally I feel like I am finally getting back on track with things. I can't keep doing this to myself and I can't keep relying on other people to help me out when they don't necessarily have the time to help with my projects as well as their own lives. I love everyone who has helped me get so far, but I need to take on the responsibility to finish the jobs or to set things aside on my own related to the importance that I give them, nobody else.
On to my philosophy of being sick... If I can get through it without drugs, I will take it. Rarely will you find me popping pills at every little ache and pain. I find that aches and pains are my body's way of telling me to back off, so if I just change whatever I am doing, they will go away. This works in that area. Even if I wake up with a sore throat or go to sleep with a headache, I will try to figure out the cause and remedy that before I take pills that will just make the pain go away, treating the symptoms and not the cause. This has always worked for me in that same sense, too, until I started teaching. Here is where the serious problem comes in! I get germs that my body either has never seen before and/or has no defenses to tackle, yet I still have to keep trucking through my day-to-day life as if I am perfectly healthy. Not fun. So I take drugs. Then I don't know what the actual cause of the illness was, because I have to ignore it and keep trucking on through life. What do I do then? The sickness will keep coming back and coming back, stronger each time, until it knocks me on my rear end like this one did to me yesterday!!
J.M. Hope
Thursday, December 15, 2016
Blown away by the Spintronix Guard
Tuesday, December 13, 2016
Establishing a Winter Training Program
Spintronix is all about training. Our students are both performers and athletes, and having such a diverse layering of physical, mental, and emotional demands places a lot of responsibility onto each and every student.
Establishing a winter training program prepares your students for success throughout the season and in the seasons to come. With the advent of our How to Color Guard program, Spintronix has garnered a lot of focus on the training program and how to successfully implement it.
1. Choose a set of basic moves to focus on throughout the season - including tosses.
2. Practice those basics at EVERY rehearsal at least once.
3. Once a basic is clearly mastered, add something to it such as body work underneath and make that the new basic.
4. Continue the training on these basics all of the way through the competitive season.
Sunday, December 11, 2016
Planning and Doing - Reprinted with Permission
What is the difference between planning and doing? Isn't making a plan the first step in actually doing something? Why is the problem always come down to actually carrying out the plan?
I've got the plan. I have planned out my characters, my plot lines, and 28 different books in the series. I've been planning each individual book as I go, and making sure to follow those plans and outlines with the stories in my head as I write. I've got it down as far as planning goes.
My big problem with the "doing" part is that I don't have the time to do it. I'm far too busy with everything else in my life. Yet, if I wasn't busy then I wouldn't feel like doing it at all. Why is this? I suppose this is the big psychological question for the day. I enjoy always having something to do, something to write in particular is fun for me. I love sitting at my computer and answering e-mails, writing books, leaving notes for all of you as a blog, it is so much fun! I guess I just don't like when it becomes work.
J.M. Hope
Thursday, December 8, 2016
One of the best winter guard weekends ever
Tuesday, December 6, 2016
How to become World Class at Color Guard
Sunday, December 4, 2016
Just Lost, Not Forgotten - Reprinted with Permission
I hope you all didn't think I had forgotten about you over the past couple of weeks! I haven't, of course, you are my loyal fans and I appreciate every second that you spend reading about my life ramblings.
However, I have been in the process of getting things ready for my second book to be published and this takes a bit of time. In addition to the rest of my crazy hectic schedule, this makes for one crazy author. I'm looking for a release date *hopefully* in November, but there is a good possibility it will not be until Christmas. I know that's a while to wait, but since Learning to Breathe came out last Christmas I thought this might be suitable. :-)
J.M. Hope